Alright, so you kind of want to view this as if you're a car salesman.

So imagine if you went to a dealership and blah, blah, blah, guy tells you the features, all that other stuff and he goes for the close and you're kind of like, no, not right now. Or well no, I'm not sure, blah, blah blah and he literally just walked away from you. You'd be like, what the fuck? That would just be really fucking weird because there's a chance that maybe he could have kind of a little bit more softly closed you later, maybe need more information or maybe you leave and then think about it and then come back and end up buying the car later.

You kind of need to be 50% between thinking of the short term goal and thinking of the potential in the long term. Okay, so it's like, okay, she didn't go for the pool now and maybe she won't go for the pool later. Maybe she's just a girl who doesn't hook up on the first date or does it rarely. Pretty much every girl has had at least a couple of times where they freaking hooked up on the first date. But you kind of want a 50% be thinking about still trying to push, still trying to do whatever, but thinking about the long term implications. Personally, I always assume that there's going to be a second date so I'm half still trying to go for the poll and do all that stuff that day. But I'm also thinking, okay, how would this kind of play into the likelihood that she would come out on a second date? Okay, so that's kind of what you want to do.

Oh, also, and this is actually kind of a reason why we kind of more need to optimize the place our apartment is because there's, if you go for the poll with something that a girl is interested in and the girl has said that she's interested in, there's a higher chance she'll go for it if you just kind of say some general thing. I mean, obviously, sometimes you can just be like, anyway, yeah, you want to go to my place? Or, hey, let's go get some fucking wine at my place, or whatever. Like, that can still work some of the time, but over the course of the day, kind of what you want to do is you want to have multiple things at your place that you can pull with, okay? So it could be like some fun game or like a type of wine that she likes or, oh, yeah, I got a cool sound system, or I freaking blah, blah, blah. There's a whole bunch of different stuff. But what you do then is over the course of while you're talking to her, you basically if she hits on anything that's kind of similar to something you have back at your place, you can mention that, okay? And then that's kind of like seating the poll so you know that she's interested are sitting there, scotching, I have a little bar at my place where I have this and this in my place. I love that stuff. And then later you can be like, you know what? These drinks are good

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1 and shit, but honestly, we should just freaking go back and have a shot of blah, blah, blah. There's a whole bunch of different ways you can play it. It's obviously contextual. Maybe depending on the situation, you could write it differently, blah, blah, blah. So you have multiple different ways that you can pull her back. And if she mentions any of that, you can just kind of do, like, a soft seating of the poll with that. And even what you can do is you can purposely kind of bring up topics that would make it so that give yourself an excuse to naturally bring that up. And, yeah, that's a little bit better. Way of going for the poll is if she literally says she's like, you bring up a topic that's kind of related to the thing that you want to say is back at your place, and then she'll talk about it and be like, oh, I like this, blah, blah, blah. I love that. Yeah, I have some version of you have it back to your place or whatever, and then it's like it was brought up naturally. She already said that she likes it. You said you have it back at your place, and then you can pull with that thing that she said she liked. So, yeah, it's kind of whatever, an advanced technique or whatever. It's not really that hard or whatever, but it's a slightly better way because it's something that she said she's interested in instead of just a general. Oh, you want to go back to my place or you're going back for something that like it's? More like you're interested in it.

And then this is what I do. I say "you want to head out?" And she'll say yeah and then outside the bar/restaurant/whatever, say it was nice meeting you/I had a good time/something to that effect. And then ask her what she's doing the rest of the night. After she responds just say you're doing something innocuous, doesn't really matter. And follow it up saying you're going to go to bed soon cuz you have work in the morning. The false time constraint takes some of the pressure off. And then just say something along the lines of "you want to (insert random thing) for a little bit?”