So basically, this is what I do too.

So I should probably preface this by saying that I naturally actually like getting to know people and kind of figuring them out and stuff like that. As you've probably noticed, I get on fucking deep talks with people all the time.

But I guess as far as, like, a formula, it's basically you just ask questions about their life and then ask about their emotions, their emotions surrounding it and why they did it. And then you just keep going levels and levels deeper.

So it's like, I moved here from California.

Oh, why did you do that? Well, I have a job out here, blah, blah, blah.

And then you could be like, oh, you moved out here by yourself?

Yeah, blah, blah. Damn, that's risky. You're a risk taker or something like that.

You can do, like, a little cold read or whatever.

So you ask her, like, what she did, okay, why she did it, and then you could say, Damn, that's scary.

Oh, yeah, but I just like to go out and try new things and all that stuff.

And then you can kind of validate what she said by being like, yeah, I think people should always be trying to kind of push their comfort zone a little bit, even if it's a little bit scary.

And then she'll be like, yeah, that's exactly what I'm doing. It's like, I was kind of scared to do it, but I'm glad I came out and did it, and blah, blah, blah.

So it's like, you're not just asking her surface level stuff of what did you do? Okay? You ask why she did it and then her emotions regarding why she did it.

And just from that, that develops, quote, unquote, connection. Because a lot of people don't have people who they can talk about deeper things with. It's fairly rare to be able to talk about deeper things.

And a person doesn't try and insert their own thing. They don't try to say, like, they literally just listen and try to understand who you are.

So just literally that thing of, like, those three things,